Connecting to emotions is one of the things men are not taught to do. Suicide rates and addiction in men are sky high. Is this a cause and effect issue, or simply correlation? Maybe. What we are aware of is that knowing your internal emotions can lead to better outcomes in nearly every aspect of life. Want to land that job? Find your ideal partner? Start here with better attuning to and understanding your emotional experience.

“Black and white thinking” or as I like to refer to it “polarized thinking” is an all too common phenomenon. Most importantly, people seem to have difficulty with recognizing how their polarized thinking shows up in their lives. One of the frequent manifestations of this are statements like “always” and “never.”
Especially when working with couples I often here it used in the form of, “you never…” or “you always…”

If you’ve ever spoken with a financial advisor or have taken a course in finance/investment, a common talking point is diversifying your portfolio (oftentimes in the form of mutual funds). This approach decreases risk. As the saying goes, “don’t put all your eggs in one basket.”

Why would we not do the same with our emotions, environments, relationships, support, self-care, etc.?